Hey, Happy Power Monday! How was your weekend friends? I spent Saturday writing blog posts, making my Saturday morning pancakes, some more Pumpkin Spice Granola (I ran out!), and some more Pumpkin Pie Spice! O the smells in the house were lovely 🙂 Then of course came the obligatory weekend grocery shopping but then I came home to make my favorite Sprouted Lentil Pizza (I had not made it in a while and had been craving it all week, waiting for those lentils to sprout! I used alfalfa sprouts instead of spinach this time too, double the sprouted-ness!). Then the night ended with a long session of yoga. I always feel so much better after my yoga 🙂 Sunday was a nice lazy day. Beginning with playing around in the kitchen with a new Quinoa Flake recipe (I have like 10 new ones to share on the blog!), computer time, work emails, some quick homework, my Sunday workout, and my mom put the Tree up! Feels like it really is Christmas now. O and it snowed, lightly, but it did 🙂
It's rant time! Well no I won't call this a rant, because it is something that needs to be addressed. I am sure if you are involved in the blogging community you have seen a multitude of posts over the last few weeks about how to "stay healthy" during the holidays, how to combat holiday guilt, how to not eat all those snickerdoodles and drink all that eggnog, and even how to "survive" the holidays. What all these posts have in common though is guilt. They don't focus on the cheer, love, and joy that should be associated with the holidays. They focus on all the media infused negatives. Do you really think that when the Pilgrims had their first Thanksgiving they were worried about eating that second serving of potatoes or that extra scoop of pudding? No, I can assure you they did not. They celebrated the day, the feast, the love, and the connections. But over the years the holidays, really all holidays, but especially the winter holiday season have become inundated with feelings of guilt and a diminished self-worth.
So I ask you why? Just because after your Christmas dinner you enjoy a few Christmas cookies? Isn't Christmas and any holiday supposed to be a celebration? We are supposed to be celebrating life, love, happiness, and the things we have. But if everyone starts stressing about those cookies they had and how they were not able to get in a workout, then we lose the true meaning of the day. With that being said, when it is not a holiday or special occasion, shouldn't you be living your normal healthy life. Those 350 some days that are not holidays like Christmas, Thanksgiving, your birthday, those are the days that matter. Don't worry about enjoying a holiday or two because that is the whole point, to enjoy it! Not stress and worry about weight gain and a little extra sugar.
It is as though society does not want anyone to ever fully enjoy a holiday, there always has to be a marketing gimmick, a consequence, a put down. But if you normally take care of your body and your health you shouldn't have to think about guilt during the holidays. If you don't take care of yourself normally, then why would you feel more guilt during the holidays than any other day?
We all just need to stop...and breathe. All this talk of guilt and shaming going around makes everyone feel unnecessarily guilty for no reason. The guilt and shaming are like branded marks on holidays favorites. That gingerbread man has a stamp of "I am ashamed of myself" to even the most confident and healthy eater. This is creating distorted views and thoughts for so many people, when that is not how it should or has to be.
Life is a beautiful journey and we should savor every day. All you have to do is be mindful, be passionate, love your body enough to take care of it, and simply live. Your holiday should not make you feel less beautiful, confident, or significant. But that is the big point, your holiday. If you don't treat every day like a holiday and follow your normal healthy diet and physical activity, you should have no worries on those special occasions. You won't feel the need to go on a crazy juice cleanse, crash diet, or jump on the treadmill for 3 hours to burn off all the calories. You will just continue on with your normal healthy habits, because that is your real everyday life-style. You are not eating cookies, pies, and heavy dishes everyday. You eat these things when you celebrate, and only if you like them, if you want to. Never feel obligated to eat something your body does not want. That is another key to this whole thing. Listen to your body!
I will leave you with this. Holidays are a time to be grateful. To be surrounded by love, joy, kindness, warmth, strength, and happiness. It is not the time to be consumed by thoughts of guilt, self-hate, low confidence, or fear. Enjoy the time with your loved ones, that is the most important thing. Holidays are so much more than food. They are social gatherings of celebration. Not guilt-tripping food events. Focus on the LOVE, the laughs, the talks, the memories. Create those memories and make those laughs. That is what you will remember the rest of your life. Not the cookie you ate.
(Family = The Most Important!)
So tell me:
Do you think holidays are unfairly correlated with guilt?
Do you allow yourself to enjoy these celebrations or do you get caught up in the feelings of guilt and shame?
Deborah Smikle-Davis
As a health conscious person, I am sometimes guilty of worrying about "cheating" during the holidays. I applaud your rationale for guilt-free holidays. So this season I am going to practice moderation but give myself a little pass. Maybe my new mantra will be: "Don't worry, have a happy holiday and be happy! Then get back to better eating after the festivities." Thanks for sharing your helpful insights on the Healthy, Happy, Green and Natural Hop!
strengthandsunshine
Perfect Mantra! Definitely implement it 🙂
Heather Lynne
I do my best to focus on what's most important! (FAMILY!)
strengthandsunshine
That's what the holidays are about!
Caitlin
Stopping and breathing is so key. I tend to overthink food during the holidays and lose focus on my family and friends. And that is likely what will result in me making a food decision that I regret later be it eating too much or restricting. I wish I could just easily breathe and just BE and say "oh there is food at this event, that's nice, I will eat if I'm hungry" - just like the pilgrims did, as you said. I've been trying this holiday season to take a deep breath and focus less on food and more on other aspects of my surroundings.
strengthandsunshine
Exactly. It is hard sometimes and the most difficult part for me is what other people expect or think. But I shouldn't worry about that. I need to focus on my own needs and enjoy all the aspects of the holiday and not let those negative thoughts get in the way.
Adrienne Bolton (@TheMommyMess)
Everything in moderation, right? Holidays are about eating sweets. Period. 😉 Thanks for stopping by on my SITS day!
strengthandsunshine
They are about making memories and love 🙂
Kristy @ Southern In-Law
I think any celebration is unfairly correlated with guilt these days thanks to the media. Birthdays, Christmas, parties with friends.
I always say healthy living is about balance - it's about practicing moderation and knowing when you've had enough. We love creating and eating healthy recipes and eat those on a daily basis - however we also eat chocolate or icecream for dessert or head out for icecream or froyo with friends - it's all about balance!
We generally have pretty healthy Christmas meals as we have Christmas in summer so it's all fresh food - fresh ham, salads, turkey, chicken, etc but I will definitely be enjoying dessert too!
strengthandsunshine
Perfectly said! If you live a healthy life style, then holidays are definitely able to fit into you balance. It should not have to tip the scale or make you feel like you tipped it. You should be focusing on life, family, and love.
P.S. Christmas in the Summer must be pretty interesting, haha 🙂
kristenk
So true! I felt so guilty (and extremely full) on Thanksgiving. I would never have blogged about everything I ate because people would have judged me! But I had fun eating everything AND I had fun Turkey Trotting that morning as well, so there's no reason that I should have felt so guilty. Thanks for posting this!
strengthandsunshine
Exactly! It was one day, and one day of celebration. You shouldn't be judged and feel ashamed!
Kaila @healthyhelperblog!
I completely agree.... Holidays are about so much more than stress and worry! People get so caught up in trying to make it through the holidays without gaining an ounce or straying from their diets that they end up missing the whole point of the holidays! Such a shame because they really are the best time of the year!
strengthandsunshine
They definitely are! People just lose sight to easily.